Monday, February 6, 2012

Accidents Happen.

I haven't mentioned, but Ava and I were in a car accident a week and a half ago. We were heading down a busy road, and a woman made an illegal left-hand turn into oncoming traffic and I was, well, oncoming. I did everything in my power to stop, but there was a moment of complete clarity where I knew, without a doubt, there was absolutely no way I could prevent my car from crashing full-on into hers. It was truly terrible.

Neither of us are hurt, thank God, but don't even get me started on the fallout from the accident. The woman, who says she has a "witness" that can attest to her lies about having been stopped in my lane (um, what would that even matter - she was still sitting in oncoming traffic illegally!!!!!!) despite having only been on the scene for a matter of minutes before having to leave while I waited three hours for the police who never showed (!!!!!!!), so basically the whole matter of getting my car fixed is still on hold while they debate whether or not I was partially responsible. SUCH NONSENSE. Ugh.

Worse than that, however, has been the resulting effect on my driving. Trust me, I've always been careful with Ava in the car, but now I'm hyper vigilant about everything going on around me on the road. So much so, in fact, that I've started to have minor panic attacks in the car sometimes. If a car gets anywhere near too close to me, I'm basically seeing my own death in my head. Anytime a car is in the turn lane and could potentially attempt to turn in front of my car, I'm sweating and breathless praying that they don't. I haven't seen anyone about it, mainly because I know this type of thing can be common after accidents and ours is being particularly dragged out due to the lying b$%&@ woman who was involved in my accident, but still - it's starting to really bum me out!

Any suggestions/experience with this type of thing?


  1. I don't have any suggestions on this as I have never been in a real car-to-car collision but I feel for you!!!! I hope things get better for you with time and that someone is able to give you better advice.

  2. That is Soo so scary. Especially with Ava in the car.

    I rear ended someone in college (some dumb man stopped at a green light because he thought the pedestrians miiiight want to cross) and I was pretty bad. We weren't hurt, but I know exactly what you mean about the effects afterwards. That was 6 years ago and still to this day, I cringe and overreact when I or Michael get anywhere near another car's bumper. I even have nightmares about it occasionally :(

    I wish I had a suggestion for you to somehow forget that it happened, but I need one myself!
    So sorry that happened :(

  3. How scary! Thank goodness you and Ava weren't hurt. Im so sorry your having to go through this and having deal with that stupid woman who caused the wreck.
    I also got in a wreck in high school and was terrified that everyone on the road was going to hit me. I got over it for the most part, but occasionally, I will still over react when a car comes too close. The only thing that has really helped me is time. I will say that the accident has made me a better driver. Since then I have been much more careful and always try and be more aware of my surroundings.

    I hope things get better for you!

  4. I'm so glad you and A are alright! I wish I had some suggestions to help with your anxiety!

  5. A carseat clinic I went to informed us that if we were ever in an accident, insurance MUST cover replacing your carseat and seatbelts if you ask.

  6. How scary! So glad you and Ava are ok. My mom and I were in an accident when I was in high school because a lady was turned around in her seat fooling with her dog who was running loose. Now I have a HUGE problem with people who don't crate or seat belt their dogs in. Things like this change your perspective!

    You'll feel better with time!


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